How to Keep Every Resolution
Nicola Forshaw, NJ Coaching
We have all
done it. We make New Year resolutions, maybe struggle to keep
them for a few days, make ourselves miserable, and then lapse
back into our old habits.
Sure, we may keep a few of these resolutions during our
life but, for most, it’s a losing battle. However, I have the
vital formula that can ensure you keep every resolution without
We could all benefit from this simple procedure. The key
lies in that word ‘resolution’. When we make these promises to
ourselves, we should drop the ‘re’ bit of the word, and
concentrate on the ‘solution’.
Many people benefit from a simple change to their
thinking. Most people want to make changes to their life, so
they focus on what they’re giving up, rather than what they want
to achieve, which so often leads to frustration and failure.
In this life you attract whatever it is that you think
about the most. If you think about negative words like giving
up, stopping, doing less or changing something that you have
enjoyed for years, then it is inevitable that your subconscious
will rebel to ensure that it does not happen.
By replacing resolutions with solutions, you will think
about how you will look, feel and sound when you have found the
solution. Remember that there is no success or failure; there
is only a result.
There are two main reasons why people may not get the
results they want. The first is that they try to change the
habits of a lifetime overnight, and the human mind and body
can’t work like that. The other is they attempt to do it
alone. The help and support of a non-judgmental and supportive
third-party is crucial to a good outcome.
To approach 2006 resolutions in a 'coaching' way, I suggest
the most important aspect is understanding why you want to
achieve something. Some people believe that making a resolution
is enough, without thinking about why, what results do they want
to achieve? Examining your commitment to change, and defining
strategies for creating the change with small action steps that
will bring you gradually towards the goal you’re hoping to
The start of a new year is a great time to get you thinking
about your life, and remember, with the right approach and
support; you have all that you need to make the improvements you
Based in the UK,
Nicola Forshaw is a professional life coach with an advanced
diploma. She works nationally and internationally with clients
who are committed to achieving growth in their lives.
Contact her at
firstname.lastname@example.org or you
can visit her website at